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When you first tie the knot, you have this idea of living happily ever after with your new spouse and that a good marriage will come easily and naturally. What many people do not realize, however, is that a strong and happy marriage is the result of years of communication, trust, and a lot of growth. There are arguments and conflict in every relationship; it is not necessarily conflict itself that is the marker of a marriage that will end in divorce. Conflict can be healthy because it can help ensure both you and your spouse’s needs are being met, but that conflict has to be dealt with in a healthy way. Psychologists say that there are four specific behaviors that take place in a matrimonial union that together can be a telltale sign of a broken marriage that is headed toward divorce. 

Criticism

This refers to the act of attacking your spouse’s character, rather than giving him or her feedback on something he or she did that you did not like. For example, your spouse might have a habit of leaving damp towels laying on the floor after showering. Asking, “Why are you so lazy?” rather than telling him or her that it bothers you and asking him or her to hang them up to dry instead is an example of criticism. Calling your spouse lazy is attacking his or her character and not his or her behavior. This can lead to deeper feelings of resentment and contempt, which is one of the four signs that a divorce is imminent. 

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois child support lawyer,All marriages were are not created equally. Sometimes, for whatever reason, it just does not work out and it would be better if the two of you went your separate ways. But knowing when to call it quits can be a stressful and confusing time. While there is no magic answer to exactly when you should file for divorce, there are things you can consider when making your decision. You Are Only Staying Together for the Children Children understand and pick up on far more than most people give them credit for. They will know if their parents are in an unhappy marriage and studies have shown that parents staying in an unhappy relationship can actually be worse for your children than a divorce. While divorce will probably affect your children in some way, it will not be anywhere as damaging as growing up in a conflict-ridden home. You and Your Spouse Cannot Seem to Resolve Your Conflicts If you have tried to improve your conflict resolution and have even been to see a marriage counselor and still have not been able to overcome your issues, it may be time to think about a divorce. Counseling only works if both spouses are willing to critically look at their behaviors and change what is not working. If one spouse is not completely in it to win it, there is no way of reconciling what has been broken. You Are Being Treated Poorly Marriage should mean that you are being loved and respected by your spouse. If you have found that you are no longer being treated in a way that you deserve, it can be time to move on. If you are being abused, whether it be emotionally, physically, or in any other way, you should take immediate action by getting a domestic violence restraining order while you file for divorce. Nobody deserves to be treated in an abusive manner. Consult with a DuPage County Divorce Attorney

Even if you are not completely set on the idea of divorce, it can be wise to at least meet with a knowledgeable Aurora divorce lawyer to discuss your specific situation. While deciding to divorce is never an easy decision to make, in some situations, it is for the best. If you decide to go through with a divorce, the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. can help you with every aspect, from property division to dividing parenting responsibilities. To set up a consultation, call the office at 630-409-8184.

 

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https://www.huffingtonpost.com/the-stir/10-signs-its-time-to-get-_b_2338250.html

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The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C.

630-409-8184

1444 North Farnsworth Avenue, Suite 307, Aurora, IL 60505

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