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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family lawyer, life after divorce,Marriage is not easy. It takes a lot of work, effort, and persistence to make a marriage work, but sometimes it does not matter how hard you try -- you are destined to divorce. According to the National Survey of Family Growth, more than 20 percent of first marriages end in divorce within the first five years and 48 percent of marriages end before they hit 20 years. Divorce is an emotionally stressful and trying process, but sometimes it is one of the best things you can do for you and your spouse. Instead of making life as difficult as possible for both you and your soon-to-be ex, you should try focusing on making your split as healthy and smooth as possible.

Cooperate and Communicate

When you begin the divorce process, you will probably feel a flood of emotions, like anger, grief, and depression. When emotions are running this high, it is easy for you to do and say things that can negatively affect the divorce process. Remember, your emotions are valid, but how you handle them is important. Make sure you maintain an open line of communication with your spouse and remember that cooperation is key.

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reasons to divorce, divorce, Aurora Divorce LawyerThere are hundreds of reasons people tend to stay in bad marriages long after they should be dissolved. This is one of the most toxic behaviors in which otherwise healthy adults engage—regardless of circumstances bad marriages are a bad idea. Less obvious is the thought that this is true whether or not you have children—sometimes staying in a bad marriage can actually be detrimental to the kids. Many kids who live in a household in which parents constantly fight experience more severe problems later in life than children of divorce whose parents were able to amicably move on with separate lives.

While many people customarily make resolutions for life changes every January, a bad marital situation pays no attention to the calendar. The present is is always a good time to reevaluate your situation and make necessary changes. “If you’ve been contemplating the idea of divorcing your spouse, but keep coming up with new excuses to put it off because you are afraid of the messy repercussions, then this is the year you need to let go and move on,” advises Corri Fetman, attorney, author and contributor to the Huffington Post. There is no shortage of reasons why divorce may be the best option, and when you are ready to take the next step, contact an Aurora family law attorney.

Longer marriages, even unhappy ones, tend to accumulate more assets and property as time passes. Not only do people headed for divorce oftentimes waste years trying to decide if dissolution is the best option, many end up putting more and more money away into savings or shared pension accounts. These assets are then sometimes lost, depending on your perspective, during property distribution. The time you spend deciding whether to divorce can have a significant financial impact on your future.

Reasons to initiate divorce if you have been contemplating it are not all tangible—a divorce can offer health benefits as well. An unhappy, unfulfilling marriage is not only uncomfortable for the spouses involved, it can also lead to depression and other problems, including, as recent studies have suggested, heart disease. Every person deserves affectionate, enthusiastic, and uplifting love. Divorce also forces people to reevaluate important things in life. This, of course, opens new doors both psychologically and physically.

When you are contemplating reasons to divorce, it is important to realize that an experienced DuPage County divorce attorney is available to answer your questions. Contact the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. to schedule a consultation today. Our team is committed helping you find the path toward a more happy, productive future. Call 630-409-8184 for an appointment.

healthy divorce, DuPage County divorce attorney, collaborative law, alternative dispute resolutionNo one thinks on their wedding day that their marriage is going to fail. Unfortunately, many marriages do fail, whether that’s in the first five years or later down the road. The end of a marriage can wreak havoc on the individuals involved, both emotionally and physically.

Even after you have had some time to move on from the divorce, your feelings of sadness, lonliness and anger can creep up and catch you off guard. Recognizing these responses is normal, and it is part of the growth process that allows you to move on.

Even though there are emotional challenges with the end of any marriage, it is possible to have a healthy divorce.

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The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C.

630-409-8184

1444 North Farnsworth Avenue, Suite 307, Aurora, IL 60505

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