Considering Divorce? Proceed with Care

 Posted on December 00,0000 in Divorce

Just as the decision to get married is not always easy, the decision to divorce can be even more difficult. After all, the marriage was supposed to last forever. Therefore, before making a final decision to retain a lawyer and file for divorce it is important to consider all the consequences that may result.

Things to Consider

When one partner begins mulling exit strategies it can place added strain on the relationship, even without knowing it is happening. Before proceeding with a divorce take time to review some very important elements of the marriage and the divorce process

• Is a trial separation in order? Perhaps there is a way to rebuild the relationship while living apart, but still maintaining contact to work on your issues
• What were your expectations of marriage? Were they realistic? Perhaps by walking back some of these, you can save the relationship.
• Do you argue? Are the arguments an opportunity to place blame, or are they are an opportunity to solve problems and create solutions? There is a difference.
• Have you really given this marriage all your energy? As with anything in life, failing to fully commit has a way of destroying something that could be very good.
• Do you let the opinion’s of others influence your relationship? Really, the only people who really know what is happening in your marriage are you and your spouse.
• Will the problems you experience with this spouse likely to repeat in future relationships? If the answer is “yes,” perhaps you might consider working on yourself either for the sake of the marriage or the sake of future relationships.
• Are you willing to get help fixing things? If so, did you set a deadline? An open-ended attempt to repair the relationship may result in further damage. Set a reasonable goal on which both spouses agree. If at that time nothing has changed, perhaps a divorce is the right decision.

Get Sound Advice from an Experienced DuPage County  Divorce Attorney

Even if you are not sure that a divorce is the right thing to do, it is important to know the consequences of your actions prior to making any permanent decisions. Working with an experienced Aurora divorce lawyer can help you gain some perspective on the matter, and prepare you for the process that lies ahead. The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. possesses the knowledge and resources that clients need to ensure that once divorce proceedings begin, the months ahead are as free of stress and anxiety as possible. Contact our office today at 630-409-8184 to schedule an initial consultation to discuss the various options available to you.

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