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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,When young people decide to get married they often face a variety of outside opinions and attitudes about their decision. The same is true for when that marriage ends and the couple, both of whom are still very young, decide to get divorced. It is no less difficult just because they are still young.

Young Couples and Divorce

Divorce, regardless of the age of the spouses or number of years of marriage, features some very common issues. However, those who divorce at a young age and after only a few years together frequently encounter a number of issues unique to their situation.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois child custody lawyer, attorney fees,There are some people who like to say that they saw a divorce “coming from a mile away,” but the reality is that predicting the end of a marriage is not like picking a winner at the track. However, there are some who study marriage and divorce and seem to think that, like predicting the weather or the outcomes of sporting events, there definitely are some signs or indications that some marriages are more doomed to fail than others.

What Divorced Couples Have in Common

Just as most Super Bowl championship teams have a great defense or a game-changing playmaker, or World Series champs have great pitching and reliable defense, some social scientists have come to the conclusion that divorce couples also share certain aspects. While nothing is 100 percent certain, there is some credibility to their findings.

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,The idea of leaving your children parentless due to a tragic illness or accident is not a thought on which many like to dwell. However, taking necessary steps now to establish a clear and legal guardianship plan for your children can provide a measure of relief knowing you have prepared for their safekeeping.

What to Do, How to Do It

Preparing for the care of your children in the event of your death can be an easy process if one adheres to established laws and procedures. Ensuring your guardianship plan passes legal muster will prevent others from contesting guardianship, and wresting away custody of your children from those who you want to raise your kids. Before you get started, however, you probably have some questions:

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois child custody lawyer, attorney fees,Frequently it happens that following a divorce one might find him or herself, not necessarily regretting their divorce, but perhaps wishing they had known more about the life they are about to enter. There are a variety of resources to consult, but be careful of the information you obtain, and from who or where you receive it.

For Your Consideration

There are so many variables when it comes to divorce, and while there is no, all-knowing crystal ball, there is enough information and anecdotal data to provide people with a map of the obstacles to be faced. Provided here are some descriptions of divorced-life hurdles, gathered from those who have experienced divorce:

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois child custody lawyer, attorney fees,We generally use this space to provide readers with information about the various issues that surround divorce, the divorce process, child custody, asset division and other related matters. It is important that when one considers pursuing a divorce they have as much information as possible in order to make the best decision. This week we diverge slightly to take a closer look not at what causes divorce, but rather some of the signs that a relationship may last the duration.

Strong Relationship Building Blocks

Consider these opinions of what makes for a successful relationship when examining your own motives for getting married. It is difficult to measure up on all counts, but recognizing a few of these in your own life could be a good sign:

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end-marriageThere are a lot of people out there who claim to be experts on a wide variety of matters. The truth is that more times than not, the most knowledgeable person on any issue is the one who has lived the experience. This holds for divorce, as there are certain things about ending your marriage and living as a divorced adult that only those who preceded you really understand.

Been There, Done That

It is no secret that even just considering a divorce is something that weighs heavily on one’s mind, as the lasting implications affect more than just the married couple and more than just the immediate household. Here is a list of issues that come with a divorce, from those who went through the process:

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,Honest and open communication is an important tool in any relationship. When it comes to breaking the news about an impending divorce, good communication skills will come in handy. This is especially true when it comes time to telling your children that you and your spouse are divorcing, and the subject of child custody becomes a reality.

Breaking the News

Just as many adults are affected by the news of divorce, children frequently take the news quite hard. The range of emotions, from anger to guilt, can impact many other areas of their young lives. Here are a few thoughts on the subject that may just help you break the news while easing the pain your children feel, even if just a little bit:

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois child custody lawyer, attorney fees,The reasons people divorce, as well as those why they marry, are sometimes difficult to put into words. Sometimes the cause is easy to pinpoint, whether infidelity, incompatibility or even abuse, but frequently one or both spouses discover some innate feeling that only makes sense to that person. Whether others believe you or not, when you decide that divorce is the right decision the reasons may only make sense to you.

Rarely Discussed Reasons for Divorce

As mentioned above, there are some pretty common and overt reasons why marriages fail. When one or both spouses cheat, partake in an extramarital affair, or place other things, such as work or time with friends, ahead of the marriage it often signals the end of that relationship. However, presented here are some common reasons people choose to divorce that, although common, rarely receive the attention they deserve.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois child custody lawyer, attorney fees,When it comes to divorce, the laws pertaining to alimony, asset, and property division, child custody and support and other related issues can vary from state to state. The differences between one state and the other might be enough for some to take their divorce on a road trip.

Facts About Divorce in Illinois

While divorce laws tend to vary from state to state, it is important to know the laws that oversee such matters here in Illinois. Here is a quick summary of some of the basics.

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Illinois custody attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce lawyer,The impact of a divorce on children can have strong and lasting effects, impacting the education, social life, and emotional well being. It is for these and other reasons great care is taken to create a custody agreement that is best for the children. However, violating a custody agreement, even in the slightest way, can alter the terms of that agreement and negatively affect your relationship with the children and your ex-spouse.

What Should You Do?

You agree to a custody arrangement and think everything is fine. Then, when it comes time to make a lawful visit, your ex-spouse throws up roadblocks or prevents the visit completely. The steps you should take next are not always clear.
  • Some say you should call the police, but some officers will tell you to take up the matter with the court. Others may be more sympathetic and attempt to intervene and accompany you to your schedule visitation in order to ensure the other parent fully complies.
  • If police are unwilling to get involved, work with your attorney to file an appropriate motion to compel compliance.

Minor Violations and Major Violations

Depending on the nature of the custody agreement violation, you may wish to consider strategies to remedy the situation and prevent future problems.
  • A minor violation such as a misunderstanding, an unintentional delay, or other inconvenience most often is settled through calm communication. However, repeated behavior or a pattern of minor violations may warrant taking more aggressive action.
  • A major violation that places the health or safety of a child at risk, such as taking children on an unauthorized trip, leaving them unattended for long periods or exposing them to potentially dangerous situations may call for more drastic measures.
Regardless of the action you plan to take, remember that the consequences will impact your children.Try to avoid vindictive behavior, and attempt to reach a resolution that is in the best interest of the kids.

Rely on an Experienced Aurora Child Custody and Visitation Agreement Lawyer

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,After making the decision to end your marriage, the decision on how best to break the news of a divorce to children, family and friends can weigh heavily on a person. In a time like this, one is hopeful that their announcement will be met with understanding and support, but you can expect to hear your share of blame and judgements.

Telling Family and Friends

Informing the people closest to you may require different strategies in order to present a clear message about the impending divorce.

Children: Be gentle when telling the children. Although children can be quite intuitive, they are also quite sensitive. Do not wait to tell them, and reassure them it is not their fault and they are still loved. Following up your words with the actions to back them up is very important.

Parents and In-laws: Adults, especially those who may have experienced a bad relationship, may pick up on the signs or other vibes that your marriage is in trouble. Perhaps consider prepping them with some hints so the news, even though they may already suspect, does not hit them like a bombshell.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,Most married couples will tell you that the relationship is fraught with hurdles and tough decisions. When outside influences weigh on the relationship it can have a negative impact on the union. An addiction can be most damaging, even to the point of resulting in an annulment or divorce.

Addiction and Marriage Is Not a Great Pairing

The horror stories of those who were married to an addict, in addition to the experiences of those who fought their addiction, should be enough to scare most individuals. However, the reality is that addictions impact thousands of marriages every year and, even heroic efforts at recovery and reconciliation by both parties many times are not enough to save a marriage.
  • Whether drugs, alcohol, gambling or some other vice, an addiction is usually accompanied by such behaviors as lying, cheating, and stealing; behaviors not conducive to a healthy marriage.
  • An addiction can even put the health and safety of other family members at risk.
  • If left unaddressed, an addiction generally results in great loss. This may include but is not limited to one’s health, financial stability, employment and even their life.
All of these factors are serious enough for the spouse of an addict to seek a divorce.

Divorcing an Addict

While deciding to divorce an addict may seem like an easy call, it is a decision that carries the same emotional baggage as deciding to divorce under other circumstances. After all, this marriage was supposed to last forever.
  • The threat of divorce usually is not enough to force an addict into rehabilitation. Avoid a repeating cycle of destructive behavior and stick to your principles.
  • Approximately 1.2 million divorces each year involve at least one addict.
  • Take steps to document the addictive and destructive behavior of your spouse, and protect yourself and your children from potential emotional and physical harm.
  • Strongly consider including rehabilitation and ongoing recovery program participation as part of any divorce settlement.
  • Seek help for yourself and your children. An addict’s behavior can have a negative impact on those around them, counseling can help.

Consult an Experienced DuPage County Divorce Attorney When You Want to End Your Marriage

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,Although most studies show that divorces occur most frequently during the first 10 years of a marriage, even couples who were married 25 years and longer may still find their relationship ending while seated across the table from one another in a lawyer’s office. Regardless of the circumstances, recovering from a divorce often requires time and understanding.

Recovering from a Divorce Is a Process

The emotional attachment to one’s spouse is a strong thing, and not easily dismissed. It is not surprising that those who go through a divorce may experience a period similar to that of grieving the loss of a loved one during the months after a divorce is final.

Denial

This typically occurs in the person who did not initiate the divorce. They do not want to believe that the person they love no longer wants to spend the rest of their life with them. A person in denial may harbor hopes for reconciliation, even when it is clear the marriage is over.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,Perhaps if there were a way to know for sure your spouse-to-be would end up cheating, the incident of divorces caused by infidelity would decrease dramatically. While no one can know for sure who will and will not cheat, some believe there are traits and characteristics common among those who stray from their spouse.

Consider Certain Personality Traits

While there is no such thing as a crystal ball to help determine the future of your marriage, perhaps there are some things about potential suitors you should consider before jumping into something long term. Provided below is a list and brief description of some characteristics that should send up a red flag or, at the very least, give you cause to pause before saying, “I do.”
  • Narcissism, or an unnatural attraction to one’s own body, typically signals that a person is more concerned with their own needs and wants than those of others. They care about fulfilling their own desires and have little concern for the well-being of those around them.
  • Both men and women who are financially dependent on their partner tend to cheat more than those who have their own source of income.
  • Career choice may be a clue. Studies have shown men who work in finance and IT and women working in education or as corporate executives are most likely to have affairs.
  • Previous incidents of infidelity have been known to signal one’s tendency to cheat in the future.
While there is absolutely no way of knowing for sure whether or not your spouse will cheat, it is important to keep one’s eyes wide open before agreeing to marriage. Furthermore, without being overly suspicious, there is nothing wrong with a little vigilance once the honeymoon is concluded.

Pursue Your Divorce with an Experienced Aurora Divorce Attorney

Whether or not infidelity is the cause of your split, pursuing divorce requires a great deal of time, patience, and legal acumen to ensure a fair and reasonable outcome. Working with a knowledgeable DuPage County divorce lawyer will ensure nothing is omitted or overlooked through the course of negotiations and court appearances.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,As a couple goes through divorce negotiations and subsequent court proceedings many decisions are made as to who gets what, and how much they get. These decisions involve the house, children, savings and investments and other marital assets. Another decision that often results in much emotion is resolving the eventual resident of the family pet.

New Law Now in Effect

Previously, pets were treated as furniture or other inanimate possessions in divorce negotiations over marital property division. However, as of the start of 2018 in Illinois, a new law now gives a judge the right to determine if one spouse would be a better pet owner than the other. The individual who takes on more of the responsibility for pet care during the marriage now has a better chance of retaining ownership after the divorce.  Things to consider include:
  • Who purchases the pet food and other care items.
  • Who takes the pet for their regular vet visits.
  • Who walks or exercises, and/or cleans up after the pet.
  • Who spends leisure time with the pet.
All these things may now weigh in a judge’s decision as to who receives custody of the family pet. The law was sponsored by a member of the state legislature who served in volunteer positions with a zoo and humane society. She insisted that because animals have feelings and emotions it was necessary to consider a pet’s post-divorce placement with greater care. A study among divorce lawyers showed that, until very recently, courtroom battles between divorcing spouses often include disputes over pet custody, with dogs figuring in about 96 percent of those cases. However, more recently it was learned that pet custody disputes were more likely to be settled outside of court, through negotiations between the couple. This new law may increase those instances as parties are now aware of how a court may decide the matter, further clarifying one person’s claim to pet custody over the other.

Secure Your Future with Help from an Experienced DuPage County Divorce Attorney

If you are going through a divorce, it is important to work with a seasoned Aurora divorce lawyer to ensure a fair and equitable settlement of marital assets. The Law Offices of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. will work diligently to ensure you receive the best possible outcome possible. Contact our office today at 630-409-8184 to schedule a consultation to discuss all the options available.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,Even if a person has spent hours considering their various options and weighing its impact on their future, the decision to divorce can still elicit heightened emotions of fear. Unfortunately, it happens that some spouses may attempt to influence how the other proceeds with the divorce by issuing threats that play upon those fears.

Responding to Threats

It is not unusual to want your divorce to end in a way that is mutually agreeable. It is even acceptable to think the final settlement should favor you if the marriage included some egregious acts by your spouse. However, when threats are issued it is important to respond in an appropriate and legally measured manner. Doing otherwise can result in negative repercussion and even severe sanctions. However, in most cases, the threats can be best categorized as empty bluster.
  • “You’ll never get a dime unless you do this my way.” This just is not true. Community property states lay out exactly how marital assets are divided. In other states, a judge has the final say.
  • “I’d rather go to jail than pay you a single dime.” If a spouse fails to live up to court-ordered support payments, you can take steps to garnish their wages. In most cases, when faced with going to jail for defying a court order, the offending party usually opts to pay voluntarily.
  • “I’d rather quit my job than make any payments to you.” This one can be a little more difficult to fight. Try to record this threat or get a witness. A judge can order them to continue making payments.
  • “I will reconcile with you if we put everything in my name.” This is less a threat and more an attempt to dupe you into signing away future claims to marital property. Never let anyone have full financial control over your life.

Rely on the Knowledge of an Experienced Aurora Divorce Attorney

The divorce process can be a very emotional experience, leaving some people feeling vulnerable and even frightened. Matters do not improve if one spouse attempts to take advantage of the situation by issuing threats. Working with an experienced Kendall County divorce lawyer can offer one great relief and support.

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divorce-rateIt is probably a safe bet to say that everyone who marries thinks that union will last forever. Why else would they bother? However, divorce is a fact of life, and there are a number of factors that play a part in the erosion and eventual dissolution of a marriage. Stress on a marriage comes from many sources, and a person’s job is among them.

Are You Working Toward a Divorce?

It has become known that workers in some industries experience divorce at higher rates than those in others. Whether it is the long hours, required travel or stress of the job that carries over to the homelife, the career someone chooses could impact the length of their marriage. Here’s a partial list of those lines of work that tend to experience higher than normal divorce rates.

The duties and responsibilities of first-line enlisted military supervisors place an unusual strain on a marriage. The added stress of deployment often adds to the unusually high rate of divorce among those in these roles.

Although a career in supply chain logistics comes with a pretty nice salary, it also includes long hours, a heavy workload and extra stress. Occasional overtime does not help.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,Just as the decision to get married is not always easy, the decision to divorce can be even more difficult. After all, the marriage was supposed to last forever. Therefore, before making a final decision to retain a lawyer and file for divorce it is important to consider all the consequences that may result.

Things to Consider

When one partner begins mulling exit strategies it can place added strain on the relationship, even without knowing it is happening. Before proceeding with a divorce take time to review some very important elements of the marriage and the divorce process
  • Is a trial separation in order? Perhaps there is a way to rebuild the relationship while living apart, but still maintaining contact to work on your issues
  • What were your expectations of marriage? Were they realistic? Perhaps by walking back some of these, you can save the relationship.
  • Do you argue? Are the arguments an opportunity to place blame, or are they are an opportunity to solve problems and create solutions? There is a difference.
  • Have you really given this marriage all your energy? As with anything in life, failing to fully commit has a way of destroying something that could be very good.
  • Do you let the opinion’s of others influence your relationship? Really, the only people who really know what is happening in your marriage are you and your spouse.
  • Will the problems you experience with this spouse likely to repeat in future relationships? If the answer is “yes,” perhaps you might consider working on yourself either for the sake of the marriage or the sake of future relationships.
  • Are you willing to get help fixing things? If so, did you set a deadline? An open-ended attempt to repair the relationship may result in further damage. Set a reasonable goal on which both spouses agree. If at that time nothing has changed, perhaps a divorce is the right decision.

Get Sound Advice from an Experienced DuPage County  Divorce Attorney

Even if you are not sure that a divorce is the right thing to do, it is important to know the consequences of your actions prior to making any permanent decisions. Working with an experienced Aurora divorce lawyer can help you gain some perspective on the matter, and prepare you for the process that lies ahead. The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. possesses the knowledge and resources that clients need to ensure that once divorce proceedings begin, the months ahead are as free of stress and anxiety as possible. Contact our office today at 630-409-8184 to schedule an initial consultation to discuss the various options available to you.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,The division of marital property can be a long and contentious process, as both parties attempt to secure the value of joint assets and obtain full or majority ownership of the property. This can be particularly when a married couple owns a business together, and that business becomes part of the divorce negotiations.

Keeping the Doors Open

It is not uncommon for a small, family business to close its doors forever as a result of a divorce. In addition to the stress and resentment this causes, a business closing also negatively impacts the employees who lose their jobs and even the community that relies on its services. Here are few tips to consider when taking steps to protect your business prior to or during a divorce.
  • Keep accurate financial records, and do not allow business finances to mix with family finances.
  • Speaking of records, make sure all relevant documents are stored safely and easily accessible.
  • If you are intent on keeping the business after the divorce it may require that you sacrifice other assets or property.
  • Obtain a fair and accurate appraisal of the business using the services of a neutral, court-appointed professional.
  • Placing the business in a trust prevents it from being counted among marital assets, and protects the value of a company’s growth.
  • Obtaining a strong, prenuptial agreement also has the power to protect your business in the event of a divorce.
  • Consider different buyout scenarios; even going as far as to establish a payment schedule.
  • If you know a divorce is on the horizon, consider easing your spouse out of any job within the business or severely reducing their responsibilities prior to filing.
One silver lining to all this is that it is unusual for a business to be sold in order to satisfy a divorce settlement.

An Experienced Aurora Divorce Attorney Can Help Save Your Business

As any experienced divorce attorney will tell you, no two cases are exactly alike. Add the complexities of a family business to the mix and the stress can increase exponentially. However, when you rely on the counsel of a knowledgeable Illinois divorce lawyer who understands the delicate nature of asset division, and the laws that guide such matters, the end result can be satisfying. The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. uses a number of legal resources and specific knowledge gained from years of experience to help clients achieve a fair and equitable divorce. To schedule a consultation, contact our offices at 630-409-8184 and learn how this experience will benefit you.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois divorce laws,There is an old saying that goes something like, “everybody makes mistakes.” Often it is how someone deals with and bounces back from their mistakes that helps them move forward in life. The same can be said for the mistakes married couples make, and whether or not those mistakes can be overcome or result in divorce.

No Marriage Is without Its Challenges

After the ceremony and celebration have ended, and all that remains of the honeymoon are the pictures and videos, it’s time to get back to real life. However, missteps are bound to take place. Here is a list of some of the mistakes married couples make that, if go unresolved, could play a role in the end of a marriage.
  • Sometimes one spouse starts to take the other for granted because they feel so comfortable in their relationship. Failing to show appreciation for one’s spouse, and the things they bring to the marriage can create tension and hard feelings.
  • Fights about money appear on almost every list of reasons couples divorce. Couples who discuss finances openly and honestly, and save together can avoid this pitfall.
  • Marriage is a huge commitment, but when one spouse is not totally invested in the success of the relationship it can create hurt feelings and tension.
  • Total reliance on your spouse can be a bad thing. Yes, you should able to rely on your spouse, but it is important to have a support system that extends beyond your husband or wife.
  • Never fighting usually means communication between the spouses has broken down completely. Fighting is not always bad - as long as it is done constructively -  as it allows couples to air problems, let the other person know how they feel, and work together to solve problems

Speak with a Knowledgeable Aurora Divorce Lawyer If You Are Considering a Divorce

If the mistakes you or your spouse make become too much from which to recover, then perhaps a divorce is the correct next step. To ensure the process is handled properly and you are able to protect property and assets to which you are entitled, find and retain an experienced DuPage County divorce lawyer who can guide you through the process. The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C.  understands the law, as well as the stress and anxiety that often accompanies a divorce. We provide a thorough review of all details that apply to your divorce to ensure a fair and equitable conclusion. To get the answers to your questions, please call our office today at 630-409-8184 and set up a consultation.

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The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C.

630-409-8184

1444 North Farnsworth Avenue, Suite 307, Aurora, IL 60505

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