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4 Things You Can Do to Get Through Your Contentious Divorce

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Going through any type of divorce can be exhausting, both emotionally and financially. When a divorce is contested, meaning you and your spouse do not agree on the issues pertaining to your divorce, it can greatly add to the stress of the divorce. Even though it is important for anyone going through a divorce to practice self-care, it is especially important for those going through a contentious divorce to take time to manage their stress so it does not take a toll on their health. If you are going through a contentious divorce, there are certain things you can do to prepare yourself and help make the divorce process go smoother. Here are a few tips to help you cope with the stress of a contentious divorce:

  • Try to find common ground. Your divorce process will be much easier if you and your spouse can find at least one goal in common. Finding a common goal can help you and your spouse stay on track when negotiating and working together to find solutions to your issues.

  • Devote time to your feelings. Some people may feel like they need to get through the divorce before they can comprehend it, or they may simply try to avoid emotionally processing the divorce at all. Either way, you will likely begin to feel the effects of not exploring and expressing your emotions. You should take time to address your feelings so you can begin to heal.

  • Nurture your body. Even though you have heard it before, there really is truth behind keeping up your physical fitness when you want to keep up your emotional wellness. When you take good care of your body, it helps you and allows you to be able to take good care of your mind. You can do this by exercising, setting aside time each day for reflection and meditation, eating healthy, drinking enough water, and sleeping plenty each night.

  • Cut off as much contact as possible. If you have tried previously to remain civil with your spouse when communicating with them, but you have not succeeded, you may need to consider cutting off or minimizing as much contact with them as possible. If your spouse seems to only want to start arguments, limiting contact to specific forms, such as only through email or text message, can help limit the stress in your divorce and allow you to deal with it on your time.

Contact Our Skilled North Aurora, IL High-Conflict Divorce Lawyer Today

At the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C., we have seen firsthand what a stressful divorce can do to a person, both physically and emotionally. We believe an important part of the divorce process is taking care of yourself so you can heal properly. Our skilled Kane County high-conflict divorce attorney is here to help take as much of the divorce burden off of you as possible so you can focus on beginning the healing process. To schedule a consultation, call our office today at 630-409-8184.




The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C.


1444 North Farnsworth Avenue, Suite 307, Aurora, IL 60505

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