Helpful New Year’s Resolutions for Recently Divorced Co-Parents

 Posted on December 30,2020 in Divorce

One of the most challenging relationships you may ever have to manage is the co-parenting relationship between you and your child’s other parent. The divorce process can be stressful and tedious, often bringing out the worst in people. Even if you wish you never had to see your ex-spouse again, you will always be somewhat connected for life when you have children together. Working together and compromising with the help of an attorney who is well-versed in divorce issues can go a long way in a successful co-parenting relationship.  

Getting Along for the Children’s Sake

The new year is not only a time for a change in the calendar year, but it is also the perfect time for implementing a change in your habits and behaviors. Making a commitment to improving and maintaining your co-parenting skills is a simple way to set yourself up for co-parenting success in the upcoming year. Here are a few useful co-parenting resolutions to consider making for the upcoming year: 

• Keep communication clear and open. One of the most important aspects of any co-parenting relationship is the level of communication that exists between you and your co-parent. You should strive to keep the line of communication open at all times, even if you do not necessarily enjoy communicating with your co-parent. Instead of talking on the phone or in person, you can send email or text messages. 

• Set boundaries with your ex-spouse and your child. A crucial element to healthy co-parenting is setting boundaries with your co-parent, along with your child. You should make it clear to your co-parent that you are serious about co-parenting and that you want to make the rules between households as consistent as possible for your children. This can also help set boundaries with your children and help them know what is expected of them when they spend time with each parent.

• Continue what is working, and quit what is not. One of the most important resolutions you can make this year is to take a hard look at your co-parenting and your divorce, in general. Is everything working out the way you expected, or are there things you need to and are able to change? Determine if there are things you could be doing better and use those as a driving factor for your focus. Reviewing and evaluating what has worked and what has not can help you better plan for future situations that may arise.

A Kane County Divorce Attorney is Here to Help

The divorce process can be especially long and stressful, leaving you and your spouse with sour attitudes about the divorce that can unintentionally pollute your co-parenting relationship if you have kids. At the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C., we can help you understand your rights when it comes to your children and ensure your parenting plan is suited to the needs of you and your family. To schedule a private consultation with our skilled North Aurora divorce lawyer, call our office today at 630-409-8184.

Sources:

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/10-new-years-resolutions-_6_b_8849280

https://www.wevorce.com/blog/6-new-years-resolutions-for-parents/

https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/blog/a-dozen-new-years-resolutions-for-the-divorced-parent